The three-year-old child had no impression of his father. His mother, Janice Combs, had always told him that his father died in a car accident. However, little Sean always felt that something was not right. Why did his mother always avoid talking about his father’s occupation? Why did his family not work much, but always had endless money? Why did the police come to question the family from time to time? All this was not until Sean went to secondary school. One day, he was doing research in the library and saw the newspaper of that year his father died. He learned that his father had died of a gunshot, and his father’s occupation was not glorious at all, his father was a drug dealer.

At that moment, his father’s glorious image completely collapsed. From then on, Sean began to feel inferior. The other side of inferiority is the urgent desire for recognition from others. Just like the Koreans now who want to grab everything, want to be the first in everything, and want to be in the limelight. In fact, it is all to cover up the inferiority in their hearts. It is a complex psychology. Sean’s growth path is full of limelight caused by his inferiority. For example, in junior high school, he was a model for Essence Magazine. In high school, he was a backup dancer in several audio tapes of Diana Ross and the beautiful young cannibal. The most typical example is the case of which after his family moved to another place, he envied the swimming pool of the white family across the street. He wanted to go swimming but was rejected by the white kids. Sean, whose self-esteem was hurt, asked his mother to build a swimming pool at home. Then, his mother not only built one, but also built the largest swimming pool in the entire block. As a result, all the children had to ask Sean to go in and swim. Sean has been proud since then.

Sean’s temperamental character earned him a nickname, seething and fuming guy. This style of showing off continued until Sean went to Howard University. In the eyes of college classmates, although Sean is a black man, he always has a tenacity that makes one recognize him. This also allowed Sean to successfully open up the situation in this white-dominated university and become a celebrity in the social circle. Perhaps in order to exercise his organizational skills or to meet more people at parties, Sean often participated in the work of hosting luxurious parties in the university. Some of these parties had as many as a thousand people. As predicted, at the party Sean really met Andre Harrell, the person who changed his destiny.

Andre Harrell is the founder of Uptown Records. He thought this black guy had great potential, so he gave him a job as a trainee student in Uptown Records. For a crazy fellow who was eager for exposure, what could be better than entering the entertainment industry to get more exposure? When Sean heard the offer, he immediately quit school and joined Uptown Records. Perhaps everyone has their own suited field. After Sean joined Uptown Records, he was like a duck in water. In a few months, he climbed to the position of AR executive and served as creative director. During this period, he helped to discover artists such as Mary Blakey and rapper Christopher Wallace, showing his potential as a music producer.

In 1992, Sean and Harrell broke up. Sean, who was unwilling to be bullied, left Uptown with Christopher Wallace. He went solo and founded Bad Boy Records. In 1994, Christopher Wallace released his first recording album “Ready to Die”. The album received widespread acclaim and quickly achieved millions of sales. With the success of Christopher Wallace, Sean began to expand the lineup of Bad Boy Records, signing artists such as Faith Evans and Mix Total and creating music for them. So far, Sean has become a well-known ace music producer in the circle. Of course, this is far from enough. He is not satisfied with staying behind the scenes and wants to step into the front. In 1996, Sean released his first hip-hop single, “Can Nobody Hold Me Down”, under the name of Puff Daddy. The song eventually won the Billboard Hot 100 Singles Chart. On July 22, 1997, he released his first studio album “No Way Out”, which immediately won the Billboard 200 Album Chart with a first-week sales of 561,000 copies. Its subsequent cumulative sales exceeded 7 million copies. At the 40th Grammy Awards on February 25, 1998, Sean won the Best Rap Duo/Group Award for “I Will Be Missing You”. “No Way Out” won the Best Rap Album Award. He then won two consecutive Grammy Awards. In 2006, he was selected as one of Time’s 100 Most Influential People. In 2008, he was named on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Sean became a big star.

His nickname Puff Daddy became famous all over the world. People often call him Diddy affectionately. If you have to make an analogy with his status in China, you can think of him as a combination of the Voice of China mentors. In the music circle, he is definitely a person who is very good at making money. However, no one realizes what a terrible dark empire is behind Diddy’s music empire.

As mentioned earlier, Diddy was keen on hosting parties during college time. It was because of the connections he made at the parties that Diddy achieved his later success. After becoming the godfather of music, Diddy had more resources. The scale of the parties he hosted became larger and larger, and the content became more and more exciting. Here, in order to facilitate everyone’s understanding, we need to prepare you some knowledge. The difference between American parties and Chinese parties.

Chinese parties are for family or close friends. Generally speaking, they come at mealtimes, and most of time they cannot come empty-handed. Some guests also have to help in the kitchen. The theme of a Chinese party is to eat. Everyone will comment on the food, guessing things and practise how to tell some jokes, drink some wine, but generally not get drunk. After eating and drinking, they start to group according to their interests. Some people play mahjong, some play games, and some chat about gossip. Some young people’s parties will also play some “script-killing” and “truth or dare” kind of games. These scenes are understandable to everyone.

But American parties are completely beyond the imagination of Chinese people. There are actually many types of American parties. For example, birthday parties, Christmas parties, surprise parties, pajama parties, masquerade parties, etc. But the most popular, most participated, and most daring party in social circles is “impart”. Impart is a Chinese word, which is translated into silver party. The theme of the silver party is sex and drugs. For example, someone on YouTube once translated and uploaded the Romance of the Three Kingdoms by a Chinese. Among them, the episode where Cao Cao wrote a short song. Because it is a banquet, it is translated into catch off big party, Cao Cao’s big party, which is faithful and elegant. Americans clicked in excitedly after seeing the title but were disappointed after watching it. They cursed in comments below, “Big party, where’s the drugs and chicks?” “Where are the leaves and chicks?” You see, this is cultural difference.

A friend of mine, who is really a nice friend to me, once told me about attending such a party. With deafening music, a group of people were drinking and jumping around. When the atmosphere was right, they started to smoke leaves or take ecstasy. Then, all kinds of monsters and ghosts came out. For example, they found a girl they liked and brought her to the room to discuss the true meaning of life. Sometimes they didn’t even need a room, they just did it in the corner. My friend said that this scene shattered his three views (三观 – 世界观 view on the world, 人生观 view on life, 价值观 view on values) and he ran away after staying for half an hour. Emily Zhang, a Chinese American reporter of Bloomberg, once revealed the tip of the iceberg of such parties in her book “The Paradise of Male Power (极乐男权)”. The event often starts with a simple dinner. After people clinked glasses and had enough food and wine, the waiter brought the drugs. This made a group of strangers who were just a little shy suddenly anxious like lovers. After they realized this, they would hold hands with their partners and go upstairs to the room to make love. After dawn, the organizers provided them with breakfast. Then, there was another round of drugs and alcohol, and the script was repeated over and over again. To be honest, this scene like the animal world subverts the three views of Chinese people. If you are interested, you can ask your friends who have returned from studying abroad in US, but their grades are not very good, and they like to play around the party. It is guaranteed to satisfy your desire for gossip.

Now you know why Asians can’t mix in US. Because most Chinese, whether they are ABCs or those who went there later, have been educated since childhood to not accept this kind of chaotic scene. But in the eyes of Americans, this kind of high fun be cool becomes a circle culture. if you don’t join in, you deserve to be isolated, discriminated, and have no chance to move up in society. On the contrary, only by actively breaking into this circle and proving that you are a member of the circle can you be recognized. This is very important in the environment of the United States where the elite culture is very strong. Now you know why some famous schools in the United States have small circles such as fraternities like skull and bones.

So, once you receive an invitation to Diddy’s freak off party, it means you have entered the elite circle organized by Diddy, and everyone will be proud of it. Of course, the invited people are also divided into levels, some are VIPs, and some are just 7 graders. Guests can vent their desires among the 7 graders at will. No matter how exaggerated and unbearable, even beating and abuse are all fine. For Diddy, all he has to do is to maintain the high quality and grandeur of the party. So, he will make a series of careful arrangements. He will book the most luxurious hotel suite or pool villa in the area, arrange the lighting and sound, and prepare wine and ecstasy. Some ecstasy pills are also customized in the shape of Diddy’s company logo. Diddy also prepares doctors to give his party goers intravenous drips to restore their physical strength when they are exhausted. Of course, these service staff receive generous pay to ensure that the guests can wantonly show the ugly side of their human nature.