Let me tell you a truth. People who really work will not become the leader’s confidant. No matter how much peripheral work you do for him, you will not become his confidant. Don’t think that if you do a lot of work, you will become the leader’s confidant. It’s impossible. The more you do, the more he will control you, restrict you, check you, and even deal with you.

Working hard is just a means for you to gain trust. Teachers who teach well in schools are generally difficult to get promoted. If you are transferred to another position, who will do the work? Where can your boss find such a good teacher? If the boss cannot find a good teacher, what could he do? The more work you do, the more you can’t leave your position. The less likely the leader will promote you.

Observe the phenomenon in the workplace. It is not difficult for you to find that people who hold leadership positions usually have poor work ability. Those with strong work ability are in the same position all year round. Only if you understand the rules of power operation can you understand why many ministers rise and fall. The leader will promote you when he needs to use you and kick you out immediately when he doesn’t need you. Why? He needs someone to work. But he doesn’t want to be dependent on you as the one that work all the time. That way you will undermine him. This is the mentality of the leader. A kind of political mind.

So, if you really want to be a tumbler in the workplace, you have to become his confidant. There are two ways to become an inner court official. The first is to be a counsellor. As a person who provides wisdom to the leader, also called a member of his think tank. The other way is to be a eunuch, also called secretary. We study these two types of people separately.

If someone is a person who provides strategies. The leader actually loves and fears him. The leader needs his wisdom. But he is too smart and cannot be unguarded. In history, Jia Xu in the Three Kingdoms was the best among the counsellors and inner court officials. He did well because he did not make friends with other people in society and stayed indoors. Even when his son wanted a position, he said that this position was not for his son and at least not at this time. Why? Because before Jia Xu died, Cao Cao would not use his son. After Jia Xu died, his son was promoted. So, if you want to be a counsellor of the leader, you must be trembling most of the time. And you may bear the blame for failure. You have to bear this blame. So, it is best to become a eunuch.

Don’t think it’s just the kind of eunuchs in TV dramas. In fact, eunuchs in ancient times didn’t need to be castrated initially in history. They were castrated in the end to prevent them from making disturbances in the harem. A eunuch was the emperor’s personal secretary. I’ve heard such a story before. There was a secretary. One day the leader entertained guests. His boss asked him to pour water. The leader said the tea was too hot. Can you drink such hot water? He said that “I came here to be a secretary, not to serve you tea and water.” Then the leader said, “Okay, never mind. I’ll pour it. You can excuse yourself.” A few days later, he was transferred out of the office. A few days later, he was fired. He said very confusedly, “I’m looking for a job. I’m not going to be a servant. Why does the boss treat me like this?” In fact, he didn’t know. His way of receiving and speaking was wrong. Because of the way he was educated in school. This kind of assertive personality. I make a living by my ability. I don’t need to flatter anyone. I don’t need to flatter. I just need to work hard. You have to give me money. In fact, it’s not like this in most situation. Most people who have just entered the workplace have independent personalities. I make a living by my ability. If I have ability, you have to promote me. Actually, it is not like that most of the time. Other than arriving at the office to work, serving tea and drink, reception ability, these are also part of the job itself. This is part of the job of secretary.

So how do we start to become the confidant of the boss? After joining the workplace. You can’t make friend with the leader right away. First of all, the first step is trust. Trust is the first step to achieve success. The boss will not keep you around him at the beginning. To qualify as a leader’s confidant, there are two qualities: internal and external. Internal is your internal quality. You should not be a flamboyant character. People who like to talk about this and that will never get the trust of the leader. If you are socially active person in the office, other workers recognize you as a nice and friendly person, you cut off the way to become the leader’s confidant. Externally, you have the ability to coordinate work problems. This is an issue of trust; you have to let the leader think that you are a diligent person. Go to work on time, leave work flexibly. You don’t leave until the leader leaves. Trust is a prerequisite. The stepping stone is to become an employee that the leader likes before the boss allows you get involved with more matters. Working all the time but don’t go to extremes or dogmatically. What I’m talking about here is a kind of psychological tactic. The second step is to report your work at any time and open your sincerity to the leader. Because he doesn’t understand you at first. People will be afraid of things they don’t understand. The more he knows about you, the more confidence he has in you. The third step is to become the leader’s information source. That is, the ear. You should take the initiative to report the dynamics in the office. This source of information is not just workplace gossip, but also social dynamics and industry market information reports. For example, if you research the dynamics of other companies, you should bring back various information from market research. The above three steps are just the first stage of becoming a confidant. There are three more things to do in the second stage. These three things determine whether you have reached the core turning point on the road to becoming a confidant. First, going on a business trip together with the leader. Second, doing private matters for the leader. Third, cultivating common hobbies with the leader. These three things are the turning points on the road to becoming a confidant. That is, after gaining trust, whether you can deepen the emotional connection between each other depends on the handling of these three things. If you have not done these three things with the leader, you will never become his confidant. You can figure it out by yourself, so I won’t elaborate. Some people will say that the leader is not professional in things. If you can’t talk to him about many technical things, don’t you have to find a colleague? The leader’s expertise is not to do business, but to drive others to work. That is to say, no matter how professional you are, the reason for your success is whether you are the leader’s confidant.

Finally, let me tell you something. Read more history. The essence of political science is the science of interest distribution. The essence of a politician is an interest distributor. Policy is the rules of the game based on interest distribution. In fact, if you read more history, you will find that all history is modern history. There is nothing new under the sun. It just appears in a different form. As Wang Jianlin said, I have a suggestion for everyone, “Read more history. Any history is modern history. To put it another way, any modern history is history. It just changes its form and reads more history. Read more history, and you will be very wise.

Are you the type that bodek the boss or the type that fuck the boss? For me, if I am the boss, I like the type that fuck me (at least he is honest) rather than the type that bodek me. My character and mutual relationship preference are not the East Asian type like China, Japan or Korea. Because someone that bodek is nice, but you do not know what he is up to. Does he have any scheme? (有什么心机？）Of course, it depends on your character too and your relation with elders and authority in family, whether it is authoritative or friend-like type.